I used to be one of those people who liked to keep her options open.
I was interested in so many things that I hated the idea of narrowing down or limiting myself… to one career, one style of clothing, or one brand of anything.
And it meant that I was effectively paralyzed all the time.
I never knew what I wanted to be “when I grew up.” I wasn’t sure where I wanted to live, or even what to have for dinner. I felt I lacked any personal style or defining features, and had this sneaking suspicion that I was at the whim of the world – the liquid that could take the form of any container it was poured into.
I felt like I had a ton of “potential” – but no direction to point it in.
No point at all, really.
I find my clients express this same thing when it comes to their businesses. They keep trying to appeal to everyone, and take any job that comes their way.
From experience, they know the kinds of projects they enjoy most and are best at – but they’re nervous about committing to them for fear they’ll be “limiting” themselves. They’re scared to communicate about their work in specifics, or in their true voice, because it might “alienate” people.
But here’s the thing:
We want to alienate people – the people that aren’t a good fit for us.
We want to limit our work – to the work we like best.
We want to narrow our options – to the very best options.
It’s a lesson I’ve learned over and over in both life and work. And am still learning on a daily basis!
So today, instead of worrying about “limiting” my options, I flip the script and tell myself: “This is an opportunity to be choosier.”
Shouldn’t we all be picky about the things we let into our lives?